July 2010

There has been a death in the family and I will not be posting this week. Thanks for understanding and hang in with me, I will be back soon.

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Hope you relax, enjoy & celebrate. See you Tuesday…x-

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I just read an interesting post over at The Atlantic, a response to a study claiming that people with children report lower levels of happiness than people without children. The author of the post argues that maybe “happiness” is not what you get in the short term as we’re exhausted, sex-deprived, and just overall worn down with responsibility, but that in the long-term what we get is something closer to what we truly want:

Instead of asking parents and non-parents whether they are happy right now, we might ask whether they are becoming more like the people they want to be. And then we might see children not as factors that may or may not be contributing to our happiness, but as opportunities to practice what most of us — perhaps me most of all — need to do more often, which is to put someone else before ourselves.

Anyone trying to make sense of the enormity of parenthood is interesting to me, so the piece is worth a read. Funnily enough, a bit of movie wisdom that has been playing over in my head lately is what Jason Robards said in Parenthood: “you never cross the goal line and spike the touchdown….” Even though it’s really referring to the long-view required of parenting, it reminds me of the team-like aspect of a family versus the personal glory. Whenever you enter into a pact with someone – first your spouse and then your child – where the world was formerly a set-piece you could arrange for your own happiness, it has now become an ensemble piece that requires everyone doing well for there to be success. Barring any extenuating factors like abuse or neglect, it’s that quality in healthy relationships that seems to me closer to the true meaning of happiness than whatever advertising has told us happiness is. Not forgetting yourself, but rather remembering that it’s not all about you. It takes other people to do that.

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I have finally done it, not sure what took me so long. Yesterday I bundled up the last of my plastic/Teflon coated cooking utensils and, well, I’m not sure what do to with them now. I may give them to Goodwill but then I think, ‘well they’re not safe for me to use, why would I pass that along?’ So we’ll see. But regardless, that is one easy step to making the kitchen and the food we cook and serve our families less toxic, to not have heated plastic all up in it. The best replacements are bamboo, since it is an easily renewable resource, but stainless steel and FSC certified wood are certainly better options than plastic as well.

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